Grande Gala Night, and Wanting Something Happy to Talk About

So it's Friday and it's going to be a beautiful Saturday per the forecast. That's good, right?

Yet at work today I found myself sad, distracted, yapping negative yap on the inside.

You see, tonight is Grande Gala for CommonBond, the annual fundraising event for the Advantage Services Department, which assists our residents in affordable housing. It's the supportive services arm of CommonBond. It's huge. People come and buy stuff at silent and not silent auctions.

My first one was in April 2014. Brian and I volunteered for set up of the event and then attended as guests in the evening. The next one, in 2015 we just attended and bought a few small things.

In 2016 Brian and I attended and stayed at the Hilton,where the event was held and just had the best time. It was such a nice night.  The dinner was good, we saw some cool cars on the floor because part of the auction was "drive this for a weekend", we stayed in the nicest room. It was on April 1st last year, the last night, truly of the life before.

The next day, we went to a Saturday morning local caucus. Brian fell down for no apparent reason getting to our car. That night at home, he showed me what he had found, that his left foot did not raise as high at the toes as his right - dropfoot. He had a fall on some steps in February in 2016. It was suppose to be a nerve injury, from that so the story went. Yet they would rapidly start passing him to Doctors, and I knew I think even that night when Brian showed me the drop foot that something was seriously wrong.

I knew that because Brian is Brian, and honestly if he had been his usual healthy self he would have shaken an injury off rapidly, even at age 66.

So today I finally realized that I was sad and distracted and vaguely angry because the very fact that it is Grande Gala night reminded me of losing normal. None of my Regional Team, save one went this year anyway and I was just as glad because it may have been hard to be there.

I know that in general, I really need to think better thoughts. I was happy to get my Blue Apron box this evening, it made me think of cooking. I Brian and I need to get OUT together this weekend. There has been much to much of watching politics and thinking on and dealing with ALS. I always say the time we have is now, and so it is. I need some sleep too, that will help a lot.

Spring is good. Vacation in May will be good. Getting out more is good. Have a good weekend everyone, we have today and that's good enough.

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